The "Missing" Controversy

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Yes!!!
I no longer believe that ideology that one has to or needs to reach out to people they claim to have missed.
No! One can miss someone yet not in the position to reach out to that person.
Sometimes it is pride, other times it's based on the grounds on which they parted or left off.

Being a very good example in this context, I can miss you all I want but still wouldn't reach out to you, sometimes my egos set in but most of the time, I feel I don't have such right to and many times too, our relationship may not have gotten to the point where I am allowed to suddenly reach out to you simply because I missed the moments we passively shared.
It may have been a classmate, colleague, business associate etc. Sometimes we just miss the setting in which we had these people in our lives.
We miss the times we had them around even when they may not have been actively involved in our lives.
Missing someone is not and shouldn't be equivalent to reaching out to the person.
And until we realise this we won't stop doubting when someone tells us, Oh they missed us because to us we feel they are entitled to reach out to us if they actually did miss us like they claimed.

I could be in a particular location or place and then suddenly that place strikes or brings back some memories with those who were involved it in, and if good memories, our mind would automatically register that we miss those moments shared at that particular location and then we reminisce all the good times, it's the same when we bump into our old gallery and see photos of people way back in our lives and the parts they had played long before everyone went their separate ways.
It can also be the same for an old document or piece of writing we have on our shelves. Just about anything can stir up some memories which may trigger our minds to think or reminisce about the times we spent or had with our loved ones.
So when such happens, do we exactly reach out to everyone involved? Or do we just passively respond to our mind that we miss these people and the moments we once shared or the things we did together?
Of course, we can't possibly reach out to everyone based on the events and moments that brought us together and by that made them a part of our journey at some point in our lives.
So yeah, keep your ideologies and claims to yourself, if one suddenly utters the I missed you phrase to you, the least you can do is just smile if you don't wanna reciprocate other than jumping onto their words to attack them with the unreasonable entitlement that they should have reached out to you if they actually did miss you.
Do have a lovely day/night y'all.


PS: Photos are mine except stated otherwise, taken with my smartphone



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              6 January 2024
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