When Friendship Fade Away

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Whenever I remember the reason I ended a relationship with one of my guys back then in junior school I will just be laughing and something ask myself if it is right to do let say it happens in adulthood, I joined this school back then when they were about to have their mid term exam all because my dad had to relocate because of his work to another town, after they put me in a class, I found out me and this guy bears the same name so we somehow clicked not because of the name but because he was their best student as at that time and when I heard he always top their class in everything, so bearing the same name with him placed me in some tight spot because I had to start answer questions in class too, well I was intelligent too and that really saved me, can't imagine myself as a dullard and the whole class will have to mock me as the odd one.

As usual that second term he top the class, and I manage to take the 8th position which wasn't bad as first timer, we use to talk a lot in class, read together at times and he doesn't play that much, same as me and I really love his company, there was a day we were giving assignment in school and we all forgot about it except one girl, we only remembered when the teacher came in and ask us about the assignment and we told her we didn't do it, she vexed and ask us all to come outside so she can beat us, she was really short so she was tired after dealing with few student but unfortunately for us, the principal came around, heard about the situation and took over from her in discipline us, he beat my name sake and after like 5 student, it was my turn and immediately I received my stroke, she called my name to go back and receive another round, and this guy came out instead, I was just laughing because I would have cried that day If I received the stroke again.

After the long holiday, we all resume back to school and suddenly I noticed some changes in my friends, we don't talk to girls normally but he was talking to one now and she was sitting on his lap right inside the class and I had to call his attention to it but he just wave it off, well I somehow saw it as distraction because I wasn't that fond of girls and back then I only talk or play with my guys. Gradually all the guru in him started depleting like ozone layer, it was like setting a car in reverse motion, everyone noticed even out teachers but what can they do, it was as if he made the decision to the new change, playing all his cards away, I noticed it was somehow affecting me too because I was trying to continue our friendship and row with the his new group and when I noticed I couldn't catch up, I dust my sandals and walk away and this my ex-friend shifted from his 1st position downward and it became even worst, at some point I was thinking maybe it was spiritual (as per our yoruba thinking those days), I cut ties and all but when I think about it today, maybe if I joined him then, my views about ladies would have changed before now and I won't see them as distractions back then

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Changes like that aren't cool and many male students faced it back then. When puberty hits us, we start feeling like a boss and eventually get lost on that route. I don't think you should regret ending the relationship because he could have influenced you negatively.

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that is true, maybe I was scared of the negative part back then

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Really? That wasn't a great change at all. Imagine moving backward because of a new relationship? I think you did well to cut the ties. Sometimes we just have to take drastic decisions for our own good. But what I would have done differently is try talking to the guy to change for good and if he insists, then, I can cut the ties peacefully.

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really appreciate the reply ma, i did talk to him but I think is new way was more important then

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It's the case when puberty sets in even for the girls too, we tend to pick habits and some can be disastrous. It seems puberty hits us differently sha. I don't understand why one will slip from being top of the class all in the name of puberty. You did well
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it happen in some cases but it always look weird

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