Cherish the Bonds: Nurturing Genuine Connections

One thing I have known to never force to work is your relationship with anyone. A lot has happened while we forced a lot of relationships to work when they couldn't. When we force a relationship to work, it is like taking two magnets with like poles to make them attract one another, which will never work.

Over time, we find out that some relationships we have with people work because we do not force them to happen; instead, they happen naturally when we do not expect them to. That is the best relationship we can keep and grow.

There are sometimes some relationships we have that will not start on a good note, but along the line, they happen to fall into the right place, and that is because we do not force it to happen. The question I keep asking myself sometimes is, "What is your relationship with someone, or why do you want to be a friend or have a relationship with this person?"

The relationship I am talking about now is not one between a boyfriend and a girlfriend or on a dating level. But I mean the relationships we have with people that bring up good connections and will lead to creating great bonds together.

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I will give a short scenario about one I heard. There was this friend of mine who had a friend some time ago, they were together as friends, and they literally do most things together. Suddenly, after some time, they parted ways, and they became enemies like they had never even met at all.

When I heard this, I was very worried because I value real relationships, and this kind of relationship is very scarce. I asked my friend what transpired between them, and he said they had a little argument that led to a fight. They tried settling, but it seems neither of them were ever ready to submit to one another.

Now one of them needs the other, and they cannot communicate with one another again because of their egos. And this has led the two of them apart. When you have a true relationship with someone, you will fight and settle your score, no matter what it is. I sometimes know there can be ups and downs, and that is why we have that relationship to build.

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Take this as an example, our relationship with our parents is not stable, right? There are some times when we feel like getting annoyed or fighting them over some issues, but in the long run, we still come back to them. This is not because they are our parents or what they have to offer us, but because of the bond and connections that have made us come together to settle our disputes.

This is a kind of relationship I mean when I say we should value every relationship we have. Even if it is someone we are married to or just a friend, like I said, there are levels to friendship. We see some friendships where they share most of the issues bothering them together, and we see somewhere they do anything whatsoever together.

These kinds of relationships will continue to grow because the closer you get to a person, the more trust you develop for that person; perhaps he or she is a real entity you can trust. Value every relationship you have today, learn to build real relationships with people, and value everything you share with everyone.