A Decade With My Love

The 29th of April 2022 marked our 10th anniversary. We've experienced a roller coaster ride together. In our life, a lot of unanticipated and uncontrollable events take place.

When we first met, he was 18, and I was just 17 years old. At the beginning of our relationship, we are both immature and childish. Our connection developed unexpectedly.

I've learned much about him and the world throughout our ten years of dating, especially regarding relationships. I've discovered that love alone won't make something endure.

The challenge in committed relationships shifts from how to establish a meaningful connection with the person you like to how to uphold that connection over time.

Here are things to remember: 

It's normal to have relationship doubts.

Long-term partnerships will alter you, either positively or negatively. Their debts or assets will either take from or contribute to our partnership. Love may transform us, so we may have chosen well and selected a companion who can grow with us.

And every long-term couple will inevitably have challenging times in their relationship. The secret to making it endure? Remember that you and your partner are always on the same team.

Even if you're incredibly in love with your partner, doubting your relationship occasionally is normal. Everyone experiences concerns from time to time, whether regarding the relationship's future or whether your partner is indeed "The One." The doubts are acceptable as long as they don't last for an extended period.

There will be a temptation for you.

Being attracted to other people while in a relationship is rather typical, and being doesn't stop you from feeling that way. Even if you avoid temptation, you could still fall victim to it occasionally. Social media makes it inevitable that you will engage with individuals from your past and present, some of whom may not be of goodwill. However, being conscious of the temptation enables you to resist and maintain your guard.

Long-term partnerships can get dull.

Drama and the following day's gossip sessions are practical components of the dating cycle. Relationships might help you avoid these highs and lows, but occasionally they can seem dull in comparison. "It's important to understand that the initial 'in love' phase's excitement and raw passion will fade, but those who genuinely love each other will strive to find joy and happiness every day; when you do, you'll know your relationship is built to last.

However, beware not to rely on your partner for enjoyment alone. One of the main reasons things go wrong in a long-term relationship is that one or both partners begin to expect too much from each other. No one can fill that role for you, so they learn to rely on their partner to make them happy, which puts too much strain on the relationship.

You must continue to develop independently.

In a committed partnership, each needs to be independent of the other. However, your partner may currently be at the center of your universe. Practice self-care consistently and concentrate on becoming the most excellent version of yourself. Some couples have difficulty navigating this fact without it being considered a betrayal.

The Key Is Forgiveness

It's essential to be able to forgive and let things go. I frequently observe that hurt is harbored and insults are not forgotten. As a result, whenever a new dispute arises, the old, unresolved discomfort and pain are brought up again. Long-term couples can correctly resolve a conflict before putting it behind them for good. Arguments may undoubtedly arise, but they must be resolved fully before being put behind us. This enables a pair to start each day with a clean slate.

You Can Go to Bed Angry

Is it true that couples should never argue before bed? You're exhausted and particularly irritable after a long day, which could be a better mix for handling conflicts. Sometimes it's better to go to bed rather than reiterating the same arguments and intensifying a disagreement. When you first wake up, your thinking is usually more precise, and in the peace of the morning, the problem might not seem as important. You can consider it more logically.

Occasionally being irritated is acceptable. Just make an effort not to focus on minor irritations. Arguments inevitably arise in long-term relationships. Whether it's a little dispute over the dishes or a significant statement, it doesn't matter. How you mend the wounds after a fight issues more than the subject you're debating.

This is how we develop our relationships, and while it may be so long for others, it's just the beginning for us. We are preparing for our plans, but what about getting married? Let's see and wait for that occasion.

How about you? What is your story about your current relationship?