Getting Older: The Psychological & Financial Commitments.
It's my birthday today and sincerely I've never been so pumped up about my birthdays, this is because I never got to celebrate it as a kid, I attended the birthdays of others but I never got to celebrate mine.
So I grew up seeing my birthday as just another day to work, eat, pay bills, and hustle. However as time went on, I've transcended from seeing my birthday as just another day to a day that I'm privileged to be alive, I've come to see it as a milestone, a day to remember how much I've conquered a lot of my failings
Even more
Howbeit, it doesn't still change the fact that it's just another regular day, but as a spiritually inclined person, I attribute this gift of life to the magnanimity of the creator.
A lot of people have always told me that my life is a miracle, yes, I agree with them, this is because I've made significant progress in my life, far beyond the regular expectations. This is why I never bother about the things I don't have.
I'm a great ambassador of wearing cheap clothes, eating moderately, and existing in my league, this is why it's difficult for me to see myself competing with anyone or anything. This is why I appreciate life, but do so on a low-key.
As humans, we cannot help but worry when we get older
This is normal, getting older makes you realize reality is more of a tempest than a clear sunny day.
For example, I buried my mother and grandmother in the space of 13 months, while my brother had a life-threatening accident that left him in the emergency room for 8 months. When I was 14 or 15, I wouldn't have to have to bother about these occurrences as the grownups would take care of them. It's surreal seeing myself as a grown-up.
Although I undertake a lot of financial responsibilities, I've played a father, husband & fiance role before, but deep down I still feel like a toddler
I still feel that I do not have enough mental maturity to handle some of the overwhelming realities of life. Sometimes recently happened to me, it was hard to accept that I could morph into the "boy-man" person I am to the experienced person I am supposed to be.
Sometimes, times move faster than we grow and develop. Two years ago, I decided to start living alone, and as much as this comes with its unique kind of freedom and the illusion of proper metamorphosis into adulthood.
Sometimes, changing space, paying bills, and taking care of others doesn't completely mean, we've fitted into the proper definition of adulthood.
See, it's not the age, it's about the experience that comes with discipline, control, management, then choices and decisions.
Living alone has made me realize that the illusion of freedom comes with many mistakes, although we grow as we go further. Sometimes it's not the financial incapacity or the lack and sense of expectations, that makes people fear hitting 30 or getting older.
Sometimes it's not having the proper mental maturity to handle the pressure of getting older
It feels lonely.
A lot of us, miss how life used to be. Even though the present offers more opportunities for financial freedom, we tend to understand that we don't just grow, the commitments and expectations around us tend to grow with us.
It's a difficult thing to manage, and this is why some people will choose to hide their real ages just to beat that pressure. Although being accomplished, and having money might help us, it's just a band-aid.
A lot of people are always uncertain about hitting 30 and above
......and I can say it's not the fear of being old, sometimes it's mostly the fear of transcending from what they're capable and comfortable handling to things that are seemingly different and new. That uncertainty can be nervy.
The 21st century is a time when people find it difficult to comfortably fit into their age. This happens because of the inequality of time, sophistication, and the current definition of reality.
For me, I'm glad to be older, it's a miracle and a blessing to be. I like to think I've come a long way. One thing is important, stay away from age shamers, people like this tend to make you feel you're too old for where you are, and when they get to your age they'll have achieved more.
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Am sorry for your loss brother, sometimes in life, we come across certain circumstances which make us act even beyond our age. And Sometimes life can be unfair but you just pick up your broken pieces and move on, because you have no one to hope on.
Yes, life...... The universe functions differently and the way it does can be unfair. Thanks for your kind words
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Celebration, people of Hive and beyond! My man's a year older; and even so with grace.
Your life's a testimony, yeah, but you clearly didn't just walk into it. You have had to make headway for yourself by striving hard and taking bold steps. That's inspiring.
Cheers to many years spent thriving and many more growth to come. Happy birthday.
Thank you for the well wishes. You're right, it's a miracle... my life. But like you've said, it's true I've played a significant role, and sometimes it's unbelievable... the struggles, the passion and sacrifices. Thanks big man, for the well wishes
Adulthood isn't always what we thought it to be as young children, when we were desperate to become an adult and achieve 'freedom'. I'm beginning to realise that freedom seems complex and there's a thin line between it and loneliness. I'm in my mid 20s, still have some pondering to do before reaching 30 and 'officially becoming an adult'.
Happiest birthday to you brother, age gracefully and wishing you many more happy returns :)
Adulting is a tricky and mentally stressful thing, especially when you're going to be responsible for a lot of things. At 25, I think you'll not even know when you'll hit 30. Time passes really fast, and sometimes we can't even recollect what we've been doing.
Thank you for the well wishes
Right, like a speed train, will reach beyond 30 before I finish analysing one thought. I think the responsibility is what many of us can't handle well, especially in this modern world. There is so much on the table.
You're most welcome :)
I think the more we move forward and advance, the more the need to take on more responsibilities. Sometimes I miss how it was in the past
Absolutely, we need to have more responsiblities and also become accountable as we grow older. I think it's a good challenge for personal growth :)
Happy Birthday man, good to see you survived such adversity and keep going when others might have given up.
Thanks a lot, yeah, I see my birthday as a time to actually reflect on my life and talk about it to some extent.
So sorry for your lost, you are so strong. Honestly, the fear of getting older is so common this days and most people can go as far as doing surgeries just to look more younger but one thing is certain that life isn't about being young or old, it is about how fulfilling you are and how much life you are able to impact. I love it where you said "you are glad to be older" it's a blessing and a miracle indeed
Cheers to your new age! and many more years to celebrate
Thank you. On the contrary for many people, I'm happy to be getting older, not a lot of people are privileged to get older, it's a blessing to be honest, and there's no harm in wrinkling or getting greyed. My hope is that I'm comfortable enough as the year goes by.
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Happy birthday.🎂🎂🎂 I wish you many happy and healthy years to come.🎉🎈
Hehe thank you.
Happy Birthday to you
Imagine those things you faced in couple of months. It is so crazy for that age you were then but I'm glad that you are good and alive.
Happy Birthday once again
Thank you for the well wishes. It's life, and it's the struggles we go through.
Happy birthday and it's too bad about the bad accidents involving your family. It's tough but everyone has to survive and get by. I hope things get better for you soon. You are doing a great job of surviving and dealing with all the issues that you have encountered.
Happy birthday dear, today is also my daughter's birthday.
You have endured so much pain and I pray you get to enjoy life more with loss of joy and blessings ahead.
Happy birthday bro. Hope this next year of your life brings you even greater things.
Oh wow, a very happy birthday bro. Every year you live is a blessing, there are many who would have wanted to get up to that age but didn't make it. Keep learning and growing along the way, do what you enjoy the most so you won't have many regrets when you look back. Wishing you a superb weekend ahead :}
Happy birthday belated.
So true, maturity isn't measured by one's age.
Happy birthday to you 🎉🎈. May you have many more. God bless you. It's just like when one gets older, one doesn't feel like celebrating such things at all.
Happy belated birthday to you dearest Jose. Keep soaring higher.
The fact that you've passed through all these turbulence just shows how brave and responsible you are.
Hmm......sir, Jose!! Still, Happy supernatural birthday to you,what a privilege to have you share these powerful copy. It full of reality, and it helps me to recall a time in my life that I really don't value birthday, believing I haven't gotten to the stage of my life that required celebrated birthday. Yes, I believe birthday celebration is to celebrate great achievement which I'm yet to attain. Though I thank my creator for the grace that keep me.
See, there are greater things attached to birthday, that people doesn't take note of. Now, we see people prioritize the eating and fun aspect of it than any other thing. I'm really not against fun, they're all very important. Birthday is the time to hear from your creator, the journey ahead. Yeah, trust me birthday is the time to evaluate your plan for the new year.
Happy Birthday, bro!
It's good to see that you're still strong and doing your best despite all the adversity. You're a great man, and we all look up to you.
Happy birthday to you, although I might be a day later... In some ways, I relate to your post. I'm not particularly interested in celebrating my birthday, although sometimes I do it because my family pushes me into it. And yes, with age, the illusion of freedom grows, but with that comes more responsibilities or strings attached.