When to go all out to protect loved ones
At some point, I realized it was not easy to be the firstborn child, as many responsibilities do lie on it. My older brother was one. We didn't have to tell him to be freely giving, and when we did, he was the superhero that came through for us. Sometimes I must confess that I exploited the advantage; many of us did in one way or another. Just about a week ago, I lamented how financially crippled I was and pleaded that he support me with any token, hopefully to buy fuel for my car.
"Doctors too go broke?" He teased, and I had to remind him that Nigerian doctors are poor.
He was gracious yet again to send a substantial amount to fill my tank and have something extra. Such was his magnanimity even while I was an undergraduate, and I partly depended on him for support. However, a different toll was seen in 2019, just before COVID-19. My brother was preparing to travel out of the country, and though he always acted like a superhero, he was forced to approach me for a loan.
Unfortunately, there are requests that come with bad timing, and such was the case. The money my brother was in need of was quite significant at that moment, some hundreds of thousands he needed to top up his flight and journey out of the country. He didn't have to tell me when he'd return, as I knew very well that he would return and even give me extras. Loan apps were out of my options as they were like sharks ready to devour, even though they were enticing to take. I began asking people, even those I had not reached out to in a while, and I kept getting the same response. At some point, I didn't mind selling off a few plots of land.
Luckily, a lady friend offered me the loan. Women have money! Well, I was grateful, and immediately I wired the money to my brother. He was equally grateful, as he suspected I had gone out of my way to secure the loan for him. Barely a month later, he paid back the money loaned after he settled in. I had peace of mind from the moment I secured the loan until I paid it back.
If I had other loved ones like my brother, I would not hesitate to go all out. Fortunately and unfortunately, i do not relate much with extended families so much. I have my reservations when it comes to going all out for them or protecting them.
Thank you for reading. I would love to have your comments and contributions.
Family is everything and going all out for them is one great thing to do. I'm glad you could help him.
Thank you very much, I'm equally glad
What you did was amazing because at that point he must have felt alone and not knowing who else to turn to. For him to ask you for help, he must have thought about it for awhile.
You're right, such people rarely ask and when they do, they deserve all the support
It's not easy living a life where you don't get support from outside, no uncle or aunty cares about you. They all come to claim relative when it's well.
Very true, like they made you YOU
With the action you took you are showing loyalty and much affection for your brother, you can tell that he is a very special person and willing to help.
You're right. He'll go all out also if I needed his help
That was so kind of you to do. There is this feeling of joy in us when we actually go out to help someone in need and when people do the same for us. There is no length some people won't go to support us and they should be appreciated.
You're right. We should recognize and reciprocate such supports when the need arises
That is it.
Thanks for been of great help most especially when really needed. Posterity will be kind to you aswell. Kudos.
Amen, thank you very much for your kind words
Uwc
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Thank you very much