Crossroad

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It's been a long I have been here on the #hivenaija community, and after seeing this topic, I decided to dash in.

Being a parent is not an easy task, not even talking about becoming an unexpected father. Sometimes taking risks would come out to be the best life may offer you.

To be sincere with you all, most people would go for leaving the pregnancy as they would be in a state of dilemma and devastated. To me, terminating the pregnancy would be the way out as I still have a long way to go in achieving my life's goal as well as the girl in question. The fact remains that, since there is an agreement between us, then terminating it wouldn't be a problem.

To me, I would choose to terminate the pregnancy even when it's against all odds. Back in the day, my parents always scared me away from dating girls just because of the issue of unwanted pregnancy. “If you impregnate a girl, I will buy you a separate pot and other cooking items, as well as a palm tree tapping tool. This means I have given you your separate job”, my dad would always say to me. This has been one of the words my dad always says to me. He was so serious while saying those words. Imagine me bringing a pregnant lady to the house after hearing all these…my parents would not spare me.

“You can only date a girl when you are out of a higher institution, and this would be when you have started working”, my teacher would say to us all.

My mum would bring up her part of the story, “When you impregnate a girl, your school would stop, and automatically you have become a father. Are you ready to father a child at this moment? Although, I would buy you pampas”.

I began to stick to these words as I grew up in the world. Being in the midst of your friends, you can never run away from talking about girls. I started having the urge to have a girlfriend, but after looking back at those words I was initially warned of, I withdrew from myself.

As if that were a total withdrawal. I started having feelings for one of my juniors. After wooing her, she agreed and we started dating. We dated, but then I began to avoid having something awkward with her, just because of the warning my parents had given to me. I would rather not fall prey to fathering a child at that tender age, and I also do not want to lose my education just because of immediate sweetness. We were just together without doing anything except for the name tag, “She is my girlfriend”.

After a year of dating, I could not hold it but got her hooked up. I was not aware and so the very day she came to my place, she passed the “sad news” which one way led to the rejection of food throughout that period. I was confused, but then I concluded to remove the pregnancy, as this would terminate my schooling and also harm the girl in question. We both went to the clinic just to get the pregnancy removed. As I sat waiting for her, I heard her shouting. This made me so scared. My mouth was on my head and my heart was right in my palm. It was just as if heaven should let loose for me to abscond to. No one accompanied me to the clinic as I was having a stone heart. So, it was removed successfully, and I was freed.

We came back in the middle of the night when no one would see us. My parents scolded me to tell them where I went, but being stubborn, I lied to them. “I went to see one of my teachers because of my upcoming exams, I said without looking back. I knew they wouldn't dare to meet with him. After that day, I was just praying for her to get healed and indeed, she got better.

Can I tell you something? I never, for once, got closer to her ever since the termination took place. After some long periods, we came back again, but this time I began to use protective devices. Back then, I was not wise and now, I'm the wisest. It's good to protect yourself in order not to become a sudden father.

The fact remains that, one must be ready to have a baby before venting into it, or else, you would have to be blamed.

Sudden father would lead to:

Termination of your career

No one would want to lose his or her career
We all have one career or the other and losing it would make us a failure. So, the best is to terminate the pregnancy when it happens. Although, this may not be the best because it would come with risks. It is not advisable to go for it, and so not also advisable to do what your power cannot carry.

Rejection

The whole world would reject you for sure. Everyone who had been wanting to give you the best opportunity would cut it short. All roads to great opportunities would be sealed.
Although, this can only happen when you are the sleeping type.

To crown it all, I wouldn't stand a chance of losing my career and so would remove it. Although it may put me at risk, I have to bear that risk and remain single until I'm ripe for it.

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