WE-160: A Shift in the Dating Paradigm: My Personal Experience

The conventional dating rule has always been dominated by the notion that men should be the ones to make the first move. Why? I don't think this traditional norm should be continue that way, in fact in an era where equality and respect for individual preferences are paramount, I think this should be equally, because we both have feelings to share. Honestly it is not a bad thing, whether man first or woman first, feelings has to be expressed by one not man always.

Did you believe not all man have the courage to ask a woman out, those kind of man no matter how much feelings they have, they fear to pour their mind out and because of this conventional dating rules many woman are remain single today because they follow the rules and instead of expressing their mind they're waiting for man to do it first.

To be sincere, asking woman out has always been something uniquely exhilarating for me, anytime I find myself in love and about to express myself it always a moment filled with nervous, racing heartbeat, you know that feelings when you stand on the edge of high cliff.

If woman asked you out and you tell someone about it I don't know why they criticized them being prostitute or shameless, Well I've once be a victim but I never tell anyone because I don't want people around me to criticized woman that do that, moreover it is what some mans wants. Some mans wants woman to express their feelings first before they start their own love confessions.

My dating experience

It happened my second year in higher institution, a fellow female friend we have been together for two years which almost everyone in the department thought we are in relationships but honestly I was just a friend, though I like her but don't have the courage to confront her because she was my friend and I don't know what I might hear from her. I keep the feelings to myself until one day that she mustered up her courage to ask me out after several years we keep wondering around like couple but nothing attached.

At that moment she shared her feelings it was a surprise and the moment was equally thrilling because she had a great courage to break from the norm of dating a society had written. She started the conversation with "I love you, I want us to advance this our friendship to a next level." When she initiate the conversation, it gives me a sense of control and ability to express my feelings proactively because she come up with what I wished to express longtime ago but couldn't because I don't want little thing to break the friendship.

Honestly being asked out by a woman makes me feel valued and for a woman to breaks the stereotypical society norms it really means a lot. Although some man judge woman that ask them out whenever they have a problem, but anyone doing that should stop looking down on woman. It take a courage to break conventional dating rules because of ones feelings.

Our love is strong and we're still in relationship because the feelings is so strong in both side

In conclusion, whether a man or a woman makes the first move is not as important as the genuine connection and mutual respect between the two individuals. The world is moving towards greater gender equality, and this shift is reflected in dating culture as well. It's a personal choice, and there's no right or wrong choice, as long as both parties are comfortable with the approach.